Many couples find themselves asking this question, during their wedded lives, at some point or the other. No matter how strong your marriage is, there is always room for improvement as well. Perhaps the only way to keep a marriage vibrant and happy is to put in a lot of effort from both sides. There are small and simple things, which can be done by both the partners, to counteract problems and sort them out amicably:
Distinguish what seems to be the Problem
You and your spouse first and for most need to have a heart to heart and recognize what the problems are. This can tougher than you think as this requires some amount of self-analysis. We may not always like what we see but by recognizing it, especially with your spouse, is the first step to fixing things in your marriage.
Meaningful personal interaction
Communication is the key to any productive relationship. Perhaps there is no time since we are too preoccupied with work, children or other family duties. Spending quality time to communicate and interact with each other should be a routine on a daily basis. You ought to be fair and sincere not just with yourself but with your spouse too as this plays a critical role. The fundamental thing is to make time to work on communication because we can all benefit from trying to become a better listener and support to our spouses. The only way to reach out and find this nook is when you interact with each other.
Respect
Respect is another fundamental factor to consider. Are you and your partner like cats and dogs whenever you fight even from the simplest issues? Does your communication with each other involve finger pointing, yelling, swearing and calling each other names? Candidly, it is not difficult to reach that place, when things are not looking too bright between the two of you. Previous damages inflicted in your relationship can still be easily repaired once you have high respect with one another which is truly a big thing in any relationships. Was there any difference with your manner of treatment as well as the degree of your affection to each other from the first time that you met until these days? Can you think of the things that may have made the changes?
Work on attachment and tenderness
When matrimony going through a bad patch often results in loss of intimacy and friendship and that is a big loss. Finding time to connect with your partner will help greatly in most cases. Sexual activity is also another way to gain back the intimacy you have lost. It may be awkward to think about sex if you're having trouble with your relationship, however, if you see to it that you have time to be intimate with each other, then you can somehow bring back the moments that have spiced up your life. If both the partners would do their part in giving efforts and time to fix the issues regarding their relationship, then saving it from a disaster won't be that hard to attain.
Distinguish what seems to be the Problem
You and your spouse first and for most need to have a heart to heart and recognize what the problems are. This can tougher than you think as this requires some amount of self-analysis. We may not always like what we see but by recognizing it, especially with your spouse, is the first step to fixing things in your marriage.
Meaningful personal interaction
Communication is the key to any productive relationship. Perhaps there is no time since we are too preoccupied with work, children or other family duties. Spending quality time to communicate and interact with each other should be a routine on a daily basis. You ought to be fair and sincere not just with yourself but with your spouse too as this plays a critical role. The fundamental thing is to make time to work on communication because we can all benefit from trying to become a better listener and support to our spouses. The only way to reach out and find this nook is when you interact with each other.
Respect
Respect is another fundamental factor to consider. Are you and your partner like cats and dogs whenever you fight even from the simplest issues? Does your communication with each other involve finger pointing, yelling, swearing and calling each other names? Candidly, it is not difficult to reach that place, when things are not looking too bright between the two of you. Previous damages inflicted in your relationship can still be easily repaired once you have high respect with one another which is truly a big thing in any relationships. Was there any difference with your manner of treatment as well as the degree of your affection to each other from the first time that you met until these days? Can you think of the things that may have made the changes?
Work on attachment and tenderness
When matrimony going through a bad patch often results in loss of intimacy and friendship and that is a big loss. Finding time to connect with your partner will help greatly in most cases. Sexual activity is also another way to gain back the intimacy you have lost. It may be awkward to think about sex if you're having trouble with your relationship, however, if you see to it that you have time to be intimate with each other, then you can somehow bring back the moments that have spiced up your life. If both the partners would do their part in giving efforts and time to fix the issues regarding their relationship, then saving it from a disaster won't be that hard to attain.
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