Tuesday, 7 July 2009

Is This The Right Relationship For You? Consider The Stages Of A Relationship First

By Miles Vitnar

How can you tell if youre in the right relationship and what are the stages of a relationship? Have you made a mistake by getting back together with someone only you cant see it yet? Sometimes during a break up the only thing you want is the other person. But once youre back together you question if you are in the right relationship.

Theres no foolproof way to determine if this person is the right one for you. There are stages of a relationship that you should look out for. Things may change, but you can consider if this is the right place for you to be right now.

Ask yourself a few questions to figure out if this relationship is right for you right now. The first stage to consider is if you are happy? No one expects you to be skipping and picking flowers every second, but in general you should feel content in that person's company.

The second stage is when you may have a few doubts or a bad feeling, but if your feelings toward the person and the relationship are mostly positive, then that is perfectly normal. Dont let the odd doubt or strange feeling make you wonder if you have made a big mistake.

When you do feel doubt or sadness, is it because youre wondering about someone else youd rather be with instead? Or are they just general thoughts about the possibilities you could be missing if you were not in this particular relationship?

It's normal to think like that sometimes, but if youre preoccupied by what ifs and if only thoughts, you might not be in the right relationship after all and after these stages of a relationship, this is where you should get out.

Thirdly, ask yourself if you feel safe in the relationship? This also means feeling physically safe as well as emotionally safety. That is, do you feel safe from physical abuse and/or the threat of a break up? Do you worry about your partner cheating often? If you spend a lot of your time in the relationship wondering if the other person is cheating, then you might not be with the right person after all.

If you think the person is cheating, then youre spending a lot of time being suspicious and questioning his or her motives and these thoughts will only fester. You need to figure out if your doubts are reasonable or not, or is it just your own insecurities? If you really dont trust the other person, you shouldnt be in the relationship anyway and it is likely to end badly.

When you have followed these stages of a relationship ask yourself, do you feel special? You should. If you feel like youre constantly fighting for the other persons attention and affection, get out of the relationship as you should feel like the most important person in the world to them if youre with the right person.

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