Sunday, 17 January 2010

Relationship Problems: Surviving Adultery

By Elsa . Ronne

Surviving adultery is always the topic that is not pleasant to discuss. However, it is crucial that both parties must know the ways to overcome this challenge as it holds the future of your relationship as husband and wife.

The truth is, to survive adultery is to learn how to trust your partner again; and more often than not, it is not the easiest thing to do. Still, we have to give couple a chance to rebuild their relationship after adultery.

Give yourself time to grief Much like the death of a loved one, going through the aftermath of adultery is very, very hard to accept. It is important, therefore, to allow yourself to grief. You have received a terrible blow from your partner, do not let others speak to you and tell you it is okay. It is normal not to be as lighthearted as you were before. You have been hurt and it is normal to feel pain.

The F-Word~Forgiveness~Forgive There is no excuse for adultery, but the offended spouse should not be blamed. Always remember that at some point, you are at fault why your partner committed an affair. Go over about your contribution to the problem, repent and make a commitment to change. Once you are prepared to hear your partner, sit down, talk and ask questions regarding the issues at hand. Answer the questions accurately, if you are the one who is being asked. If you are working out to redirect your marriage to the right path, cut all the communications with the third party and give promise that you will not commit infidelity again.

Do not close your doors for a second chance If both parties are forgiving and willing to change in order to work out their relationship, it is not that difficult to get back on the right track of marriage. Surviving adultery is a step that is hard to take, but it is not an impossible one.

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