Thursday, 21 January 2010

A Better Relationship With Your Ex

By Larry Moon

Someone could ask what went wrong in several relationships that break up happens even if both have mutual understanding about their relationship status. Not all end up tragically and are still able to salvage of what is left of the relationship. But at some point, how can one save a damaged relationship?

It is common sense that in order for one to be able to approach a problem, a person should initially know the root of the problem. It means analyzing the situation and everything about it so that he or she can generate a resolution.

Although this is not perfect and needs to be tested, it is still better than doing nothing. It needs basic knowledge in coping with a relationship and it is the same as how scientist resolve all problems. How to apply this same concept in different scenarios?

First, the person should have a clear perspective of things and be able to identify the problem because no problem will be solved if you cannot even identify what the problem is. As they say, you cannot heal a wound that you cannot see.

With any break up scenario, one should not have the misconception that the problem is how to get back the ex but rather, what went wrong that made the other go astray in the first place? By having this kind of mindset, the person working hard to win back an ex can have a clearer concept of things because in order to be successful, it all depends on the factors why the partner leaves.

One may realize that even if the relationship seems normal, it might be slowly fading off which might start due to lack of quality time. It is of utmost importance for a relationship to have a constant communication between lovers, regardless of the circumstances. Either individual should make an effort to find time to be with the other person without compromising work at the same time.

In addition to that, it doesn't mean that when there are no arguments between, it is likely that one or both people are not properly addressing apparent issues. It may be lack of quality time so understand that it is helpful to spend ample time with each other to have a happy and healthy relationship. This is because by staying together, both parties can easily address the needs and wants of each other.

The concepts mentioned above is not limited to guy and girl relationships but also applicable in a family and community. But setting family and community aside, by not being able to address the needs, it will cause the person deprived of the need to hunger for it, and ultimately, search for it, somewhere else or at the worse, from someone and this is where temptation comes in.

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