Despite the fact that the old saying goes "A man's house is his castle," it can feel more like a prison unless, as parents-both mother and father-and as responsible adults, we take the necessary measures to maintain a positive emotional and social balance within the home. Adults have their own needs, but of particular importance is the necessity to furnish a nurturing and positive environment for children.
Turning that mandate into a reality is, of course, a tricky matter that will vary from family to family and from parent to parent. What is for sure is that parents need to reinforce positive behavior in their children-and learn at the same time how to discourage negative behaviors that only serve to undermine a healthy and safe home...for all.
Lesson number one that parents must learn to this effect: nothing is better than leading by example. In the absence of such exemplary leadership, children will almost never respect their parents' cajolings and insinuations as to what parts of their behavior are good and, likewise, what parts are bad, etc. In other words, to be able to foster positive attitudes on the one hand, and to be able to get their children to desist with bad attitudes on the other hand, it's absolutely necessary for parents to practice what they preach. It's an inconvenient situation for certain parents, but it's an undeniable truth and a vital lesson for all parents.
With that idea firmly implanted inside a parent's head, it then comes time to develop and elaborate one's notion of exactly what behaviors are healthy and positive and which not; what should be reinforced and what discouraged. Indeed, it becomes necessary to ask the sobering question: what behaviors need to be supported and encouraged from a young age to let that child grow into a healthy, responsible adult life. Indeed, pondering these basic questions early on is a key part of the process of parenting.
A simple yet very over-arching way to think about this concept is to break it down into three sections: which behaviors are good for the child as a person; which behaviors are good for the family; and which behaviors are (and especially will be when the child grows up and becomes a fully fledged citizen) good for the greater society.
As far as the child itself is concerned, parents need to encourage plenty of physical and mental activity. There is another old saying that refers to healthy minds and healthy bodies, and both aspects are necessary for a child to turn into a successful-or simply happy-person.
As seen from the second perspective, that of the family as a whole and with particular emphasis on relationships between its members, it's important that children remain actively involved with other members of the family and on generally good terms with them all (again, leading by example comes into play here as well). A practical strategy can be to encourage performing activities in groups rather than individually, though the necessity for this will largely depend on children's specific personalities.
Last though most surely not least, from the vantage point of the good of society itself, it's necessary to impulse a certain sense of responsibility and commitment to the community. Certain parents will use established religious institutions to reach this effect, whereas other people find other ways to get there. Either way, it's important that parents stress the values of open-mindedness and acceptance of diversity.
Turning that mandate into a reality is, of course, a tricky matter that will vary from family to family and from parent to parent. What is for sure is that parents need to reinforce positive behavior in their children-and learn at the same time how to discourage negative behaviors that only serve to undermine a healthy and safe home...for all.
Lesson number one that parents must learn to this effect: nothing is better than leading by example. In the absence of such exemplary leadership, children will almost never respect their parents' cajolings and insinuations as to what parts of their behavior are good and, likewise, what parts are bad, etc. In other words, to be able to foster positive attitudes on the one hand, and to be able to get their children to desist with bad attitudes on the other hand, it's absolutely necessary for parents to practice what they preach. It's an inconvenient situation for certain parents, but it's an undeniable truth and a vital lesson for all parents.
With that idea firmly implanted inside a parent's head, it then comes time to develop and elaborate one's notion of exactly what behaviors are healthy and positive and which not; what should be reinforced and what discouraged. Indeed, it becomes necessary to ask the sobering question: what behaviors need to be supported and encouraged from a young age to let that child grow into a healthy, responsible adult life. Indeed, pondering these basic questions early on is a key part of the process of parenting.
A simple yet very over-arching way to think about this concept is to break it down into three sections: which behaviors are good for the child as a person; which behaviors are good for the family; and which behaviors are (and especially will be when the child grows up and becomes a fully fledged citizen) good for the greater society.
As far as the child itself is concerned, parents need to encourage plenty of physical and mental activity. There is another old saying that refers to healthy minds and healthy bodies, and both aspects are necessary for a child to turn into a successful-or simply happy-person.
As seen from the second perspective, that of the family as a whole and with particular emphasis on relationships between its members, it's important that children remain actively involved with other members of the family and on generally good terms with them all (again, leading by example comes into play here as well). A practical strategy can be to encourage performing activities in groups rather than individually, though the necessity for this will largely depend on children's specific personalities.
Last though most surely not least, from the vantage point of the good of society itself, it's necessary to impulse a certain sense of responsibility and commitment to the community. Certain parents will use established religious institutions to reach this effect, whereas other people find other ways to get there. Either way, it's important that parents stress the values of open-mindedness and acceptance of diversity.
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Jayde Johannsen has come to understand lots of things about parenting over the years. When it comes to looking for baby high chairs, she will always choose wooden high chairs for babies.
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