For most couples, receiving the confirmation that they are about to become parents is among the most thrilling moments in their entire lives. It brings with it a world of emotions, ranging from excitement and joy to anxiety and fear.
When receiving such news, women are usually tempted to go into high-speed preparation mode, driving straight from the doctor's office to the shopping mall to start picking out gender-neutral baby clothes and toys. Women often dream of becoming mothers their entire lives and are ready to jump head-first into the pool of motherhood. They begin to think constantly about "the baby" and the fact that they are finally about to start a family. Men sometimes experience this news in a way that is a bit more hesitant. Though there is no doubt that they will be just as excited and thrilled as the ladies in their lives, it's possible that they'll feel quite a bit of fear, too. They may feel completely lost when it comes to the topic of how to be a father, never having spent time really thinking about what they had to do.
For this reason, ladies, it is vital that you don't leave your man by the wayside when you find out you're pregnant. He may need a little help when it comes to becoming a father, and keeping these tips in mind, you can make sure he'll get it:
1. Buy Him a Book This may sound quite clich, but fatherhood books can be very helpful and calming for a nervous soon-to-be dad. He may have questions he's afraid to ask and concerns he's not sure how to bring up, and doing a bit of reading may set his mind at ease. Plus, he will probably learn the answers to questions he never even thought to ask.
2. Find Him Some Father Friends Your man's single buddies may not cut it when it comes to finding someone he can confide in and talk to about becoming a father. And while you are sure to support him, you can't completely understand. If he doesn't have any friends that are fathers, try to introduce him to some acquaintances that are. Without being too pushy, encourage him to talk to them about what it's like to be a dad and ask them for some insider advice.
3. Pay Him Attention As soon as your receive confirmation of your pregnancy, all attention is focused on you and the baby. The topic of every conversation, the decisive factor in every discussion - the baby is the center of all. This may leave your man feeling a little left out. Try to set aside days or outings that are all about him, even if that means you have to sit through a game of his favorite sports team watching him chug beer after beer that makes you nauseous. This is a good way to remind him that he is still very important to you.
4. Let Him Get Away Let the future father in your life know that it is okay for him to escape for a while. With all the talk about the baby, he may feel overwhelmed and need a little bit of time that is about him. A day of golf with friends or a night of poker with coworkers may be just what he needs to let off some steam. Just as you need some alone time, he probably does too.
When receiving such news, women are usually tempted to go into high-speed preparation mode, driving straight from the doctor's office to the shopping mall to start picking out gender-neutral baby clothes and toys. Women often dream of becoming mothers their entire lives and are ready to jump head-first into the pool of motherhood. They begin to think constantly about "the baby" and the fact that they are finally about to start a family. Men sometimes experience this news in a way that is a bit more hesitant. Though there is no doubt that they will be just as excited and thrilled as the ladies in their lives, it's possible that they'll feel quite a bit of fear, too. They may feel completely lost when it comes to the topic of how to be a father, never having spent time really thinking about what they had to do.
For this reason, ladies, it is vital that you don't leave your man by the wayside when you find out you're pregnant. He may need a little help when it comes to becoming a father, and keeping these tips in mind, you can make sure he'll get it:
1. Buy Him a Book This may sound quite clich, but fatherhood books can be very helpful and calming for a nervous soon-to-be dad. He may have questions he's afraid to ask and concerns he's not sure how to bring up, and doing a bit of reading may set his mind at ease. Plus, he will probably learn the answers to questions he never even thought to ask.
2. Find Him Some Father Friends Your man's single buddies may not cut it when it comes to finding someone he can confide in and talk to about becoming a father. And while you are sure to support him, you can't completely understand. If he doesn't have any friends that are fathers, try to introduce him to some acquaintances that are. Without being too pushy, encourage him to talk to them about what it's like to be a dad and ask them for some insider advice.
3. Pay Him Attention As soon as your receive confirmation of your pregnancy, all attention is focused on you and the baby. The topic of every conversation, the decisive factor in every discussion - the baby is the center of all. This may leave your man feeling a little left out. Try to set aside days or outings that are all about him, even if that means you have to sit through a game of his favorite sports team watching him chug beer after beer that makes you nauseous. This is a good way to remind him that he is still very important to you.
4. Let Him Get Away Let the future father in your life know that it is okay for him to escape for a while. With all the talk about the baby, he may feel overwhelmed and need a little bit of time that is about him. A day of golf with friends or a night of poker with coworkers may be just what he needs to let off some steam. Just as you need some alone time, he probably does too.
About the Author:
Jayde Johannsen adores all things about being a woman, which includes both motherhood and women's shoes. Recently she published some work on women's dress shoes. Enjoy.
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