Tuesday, 23 June 2009

How To Know When To End a Long Term Relationship

By Russel Richards

One of the most difficult decisions anyone will have to make is whether or not to end a long term relationship. If your relationship is having difficulties, should you put more effort into it or give up on it?

For a lot of people, its not that the situation is bad, its just not very fulfilling. Or maybe the relationship seems like more of a hassle than it used to be.

I think we all know that relationships evolve over time. The initial excitement and infatuation, if everything is going well, gives over to a deeper and more profound type of love.

But some relationships aren't going anywhere. They should end. How do you know when thats the case to?

Consider these tips to help you decide whether or not you want to end your long term relationship.

As a starter, if your partner has been physically abusive, end the relationship. That's the only sensible option.

The following isnt as clear-cut as what to do if abuse is an issue, but these factors will give you some insight into the quality of your relationship.

Do you and your partner truly like and respect each other? Do you share similar values? If you don't, its a serious caution flag.

Are you both willing to make compromises to meet each others needs?

Does your partner have some absolutely unacceptable traits or personality flaws? Most people don't change at core, so that may be a reason to end the relationship.

Are you both willing to give and take together? Taking only isnt fair and wont work.

Do you share plans and ideas for your future together? If you arent envisioning a future together maybe it's time to consider moving on.

If you consider those factors, I think youll get a sense of whether you need to consider ending your relationship. Most of the time, long term relationships are worth preserving.

However, most people have no idea how to improve a relationship thats struggling.

My personal opinion is that the divorce rate would be a lot less if couples sought out good relationship advice when a problem comes up (or even better, if they develop the skills ahead of time to prevent problems).

Recommend Resources

One system I've found that is extremely complete and detailed is the Save My Marriage Today Premium Home Study Course. It consists of videos, text documents and bonuses all of which are designed to help you master effective relationship skills.

Another system I can highly recommend is The Magic of Making Up. I really like the author's comfortable style and compassionate approach. More importantly, he gives excellent advice.

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