Friday, 20 November 2009

Typical Problems Of Married Couples

By Meadow L. Walawender

Marriage is like a long travel-sometimes the road is smooth, sometimes it's rough. There are times when things are okay and there are times when marriage problems crop up. Challenges are typical components of even the healthiest and happiest marriage. As husband and wife, it is vital that you learn to deal with every problem with your partner. You should do everything to keep these challenges from damaging your marriage.

Communication, or its absence, is one of the most typical problems encountered by husbands and wives. Communication is lost when the husband gets busy with earning money while the wife gets busy with household stuff and the children. The problem with this is that, no matter how simple, it can lead to other bigger and more complicated problems. When communication is missing, even the smallest problems the couple might face are amplified. Things are left unspoken, pain and other negative emotions are not revealed, and expectations are often unmet. You and your spouse may just wake up one day with everything gone and lost.

Problems on finances are also typical among husbands and wives, and these marriage problems are more common among those with kids. If you and your partner don't have enough money to support your family, your relationship may suffer from the financial constraints you may have to face. The problem is even more serious if the man or woman, or both, do not have a job and there are children who need support.

Other people getting into the relationship can also cause problems. Friends, in-laws, and other relatives intruding into the marriage can cause problems between a husband and wife.

And yes, one of the most difficult problems you may encounter in your marriage is a third party. If there is one party that is unfaithful to his or her partner, problems will surely crop up. Negative feelings like bitterness and jealousy are bound to damage the foundation of the marriage.

How can you remedy these problems and what can you do to reconnect with your partner? Most importantly, communication must be open and you and your partner should talk things out. Never ever deal with problems by ignoring them. No matter what your problems are-financial, emotional, or just the usual problems-always find time to discuss them. And, never allow other people to intrude in your marriage. Decisions you need to create should involve you and your partner alone, and no else. And if you think the problem has already gone serious, you can consult a marriage counselor to help you out.

No matter what marriage problems you and your husband or wife encounter, you should do everything to fix things up. If you do, you'll be glad to know just how many relationships are restored by simply trying.

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