Do you strongly suspect that either you or your partner is involved in something improper, something outside the boundary of the promises you made to one another? If so, you may be experiencing the highly charged world of emotional infidelity. It is not all that different from the normal infidelity. There is still the deep hurt and confusion. The feeling of loss and betrayal, and, of course, a passionate anger for the one betrayed.
What is emotional infidelity? Simply put, it is when one portion of committed relationship, married or otherwise, becomes emotionally entangled with someone else. Sex is not yet a part of equation, although it probably not far behind. This 'other' relationship then creates a huge disconnect between the partnered couple. And, the pain of isolation soon follows.
What makes it so insidious is that the partner involved really believes they are doing nothing wrong. There isn't any sex going on, so there can't be anything wrong with it, right? Well, actually there may well be.
If you suspect your spouse could be involved in an emotional affair, you need to be aware of how they spend time away from your presence. Are they now unavailable where once they were not? Do they protect their privacy on the computer and on their cell phone? Are they uncommunicative about personal details of their life, details that were once easily and freely shared?
Conversely, you may be one who unwittingly finds themselves in this sort of emotional mess. Do you share intimacies with another that you once reserved for your partner or spouse? Are you making secret times to rendezvous with another, either through a phone call, IM, email, or in perhaps even in person? Do you go to great lengths to keep these events a deep secret from your partner? Is there sexual intensity whenever you around the other person, even though neither of you have acted on it? If so, you could be in the middle of an emotional infidelity.
There are measures you can take that offer a safeguard against an indiscretion. First, and most importantly, don't say or anything away from you spouse or partner that you would not do in front of them. If you can follow that simple rule, you should do alright. Guard against making special time that does not involve your partner. And, include them in whatever plans to have away from home.
If you suspect you have wandered into this situation unaware and would like to end it before it destroys something you hold dear, then do it. End it. Right now. Today. Communicate that fact in no uncertain terms, with the smallest opportunity for wiggle room. When the dust as settled, then go about the task of trying to find out what happened and what means to you and your partner or spouse. Nothing is set in stone. Even an emotional infidelity can come to an end.
What is emotional infidelity? Simply put, it is when one portion of committed relationship, married or otherwise, becomes emotionally entangled with someone else. Sex is not yet a part of equation, although it probably not far behind. This 'other' relationship then creates a huge disconnect between the partnered couple. And, the pain of isolation soon follows.
What makes it so insidious is that the partner involved really believes they are doing nothing wrong. There isn't any sex going on, so there can't be anything wrong with it, right? Well, actually there may well be.
If you suspect your spouse could be involved in an emotional affair, you need to be aware of how they spend time away from your presence. Are they now unavailable where once they were not? Do they protect their privacy on the computer and on their cell phone? Are they uncommunicative about personal details of their life, details that were once easily and freely shared?
Conversely, you may be one who unwittingly finds themselves in this sort of emotional mess. Do you share intimacies with another that you once reserved for your partner or spouse? Are you making secret times to rendezvous with another, either through a phone call, IM, email, or in perhaps even in person? Do you go to great lengths to keep these events a deep secret from your partner? Is there sexual intensity whenever you around the other person, even though neither of you have acted on it? If so, you could be in the middle of an emotional infidelity.
There are measures you can take that offer a safeguard against an indiscretion. First, and most importantly, don't say or anything away from you spouse or partner that you would not do in front of them. If you can follow that simple rule, you should do alright. Guard against making special time that does not involve your partner. And, include them in whatever plans to have away from home.
If you suspect you have wandered into this situation unaware and would like to end it before it destroys something you hold dear, then do it. End it. Right now. Today. Communicate that fact in no uncertain terms, with the smallest opportunity for wiggle room. When the dust as settled, then go about the task of trying to find out what happened and what means to you and your partner or spouse. Nothing is set in stone. Even an emotional infidelity can come to an end.
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