Wednesday, 25 November 2009

Can I Save My Marriage?

By Melissa Alexander

Many partners find themselves asking this question during their wedded lives at some point or other. However much a marriage may seem perfect, there is always scope for improvement. The single best means towards keeping your marriage as lively as possible is to do all or most of the things that you need for the relationship to work out hand in hand. When concerns crop up, here are some tips to help you both glide through the trouble successfully:

Recognize the Trouble

Analyse the trouble and discuss it candidly with your spouse. This can tougher than you think and requires some amount of self-analysis. The first step to fix the issues in your marriage is to be able to recognize the root of the trouble hand in hand with your partner that even though you may not like what you discover, dealing with it will open the doors towards a better relationship.

Meaningful personal interaction

Almost any successful relationship takes pride in open and interactive communication. Perhaps your lives have gotten hectic with work and babies and family duties. It needs to become a daily habit of quality time and you need to make time for each other and communicate. Uprightness and integrity with one's own self and the partner is critically important here. While communicating, we must recall that we ought to listen too and lend a shoulder to our partners whenever needed. Communication is the best approach to be able to get to that conclusion.

Reverence

Another significant ingredient to reflect on is your respect for each other. Are you and your spouse like cats and dogs whenever you fight even over the simplest things? Does your communication with each other involve finger pointing, yelling, swearing and calling each other names? It is easy to get to that space at times when things are not going well? One thing that has truly a big effect on a relationship is the level of your regards to your partner which can actually heal the wounds of the past and help you both forget mistakes. Think of the first time both of you met and how much you loved each other since then - what went wrong and why?

Loss of affection and connectivity are really big and this is often the situation when the marriage is going sour. Finding time to connect with your partner will help greatly in most cases. Sex is another marital harmony restorer as it promotes physical and mental closeness once again. It may be awkward to think about sexual activity if you're having trouble with your relationship, however, if you see to it that you have time to be intimate with each other, then you can somehow bring back the moments that have spiced up your life. Making a marriage work and saving it from a disaster is indeed an uphill task, but it can have very positive outcome, if both the partners are willing to walk that extra mile to make it work.

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