Having a happy marriage today seems to be almost impossible for many couples. What began with high hopes for "living happily ever after" has become nothing but anger and frustration. Many couples end up in divorce court because they don't know what else to do. There are other solutions and if you want to know if your marriage can be saved keep reading.
Both parties have to be fully committed to saving the marriage and, if necessary, be willing to seek the services of a professional marriage counselor. This provides the couple with an impartial mediator to help them deal with their issues. If your spouse is not willing to go for counseling then you go and hopefully he/she will soon join you.
As well as seeking the help of a marriage counselor a lot of other things can help save a marriage. The main requirement is for both partners want the marriage to continue. There is nothing difficult in the ideas offered below, but following them can help you save your marriage
As good as it seems in romantic movies and novels, there is no such thing as total clear sailing in a marriage. There will be strong winds that will make high waves in every marital relationship. Just be ready for them and be willing to ride out the storm. Remember your vows to each other at the altar and be willing to forgive and forget each other's mistakes.
Lack of communication is probably the number one reason couples feel they can't continue in a marriage. You must be totally honest with each other and avoid all game playing. Almost all problems can be solved if you are willing to engage in honest dialogue with one another.
Be willing to participate in "give and take." Compromise is so important in all relationships and this includes marriage. No one in a marriage can be right all the time. As one man learned from his counselor, "you may always be right, but you're going to be right by yourself." Find the middle ground to help you reach decisions you can both live with. Accept that there will be times when one or the other will have to be willing to give in if the marriage is to be saved.
Be committed to your spouse. If your car breaks down, you don't leave it on the side of the road. You stay with it until help arrives. You get rid of the car only when there is no hope in its being of further service to you. Saving your marriage requires commitment much like what is required to save your car. A simple analogy, but you get the point.
Both parties have to be fully committed to saving the marriage and, if necessary, be willing to seek the services of a professional marriage counselor. This provides the couple with an impartial mediator to help them deal with their issues. If your spouse is not willing to go for counseling then you go and hopefully he/she will soon join you.
As well as seeking the help of a marriage counselor a lot of other things can help save a marriage. The main requirement is for both partners want the marriage to continue. There is nothing difficult in the ideas offered below, but following them can help you save your marriage
As good as it seems in romantic movies and novels, there is no such thing as total clear sailing in a marriage. There will be strong winds that will make high waves in every marital relationship. Just be ready for them and be willing to ride out the storm. Remember your vows to each other at the altar and be willing to forgive and forget each other's mistakes.
Lack of communication is probably the number one reason couples feel they can't continue in a marriage. You must be totally honest with each other and avoid all game playing. Almost all problems can be solved if you are willing to engage in honest dialogue with one another.
Be willing to participate in "give and take." Compromise is so important in all relationships and this includes marriage. No one in a marriage can be right all the time. As one man learned from his counselor, "you may always be right, but you're going to be right by yourself." Find the middle ground to help you reach decisions you can both live with. Accept that there will be times when one or the other will have to be willing to give in if the marriage is to be saved.
Be committed to your spouse. If your car breaks down, you don't leave it on the side of the road. You stay with it until help arrives. You get rid of the car only when there is no hope in its being of further service to you. Saving your marriage requires commitment much like what is required to save your car. A simple analogy, but you get the point.
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